The biblical principle and clear teaching is a man and women should not get a divorce. The Bible clearly states they become one flesh, joined to one another. “Let no man put asunder”.
Secondly, divorce was permitted because of sinful man and their hard hearts. This was not the way God planned it to be, but we live among sinful people. All divorces happen because of both parties, but many divorces cannot be stopped because of one spouse or the other. We cannot do anything about the disobedient determination of a spouse. Sin creeps into marriages and Satan loves to see them destroyed. The scripture is clear, divorce is not God’s intent but it was permitted. The saying from Christ was so direct that they concluded maybe we should not marry. God then states it is not that easy to be alone.
Let me share biblical thoughts on marriage:
You should only marry someone who is a Christian; do not be unequally yoked together. Marry a Christian that believes the Bible as you do. May I add, date if you choose, only those who are Christian.
Marry with the purpose of a lifetime covenant, not a contract. A covenant attitude states; no matter what the other one does I will be determined before God to make it work.
Make the marriage biblical, an Ephesians 5 home. Be a church member together and serve Christ together.
What if it is not that way? Love the spouse to Jesus, you live that way.
What if I am divorced? Make sure you sought forgiveness and you do not simply blame the other person. You may say, why should I ask forgiveness? You broke your covenant before God. You should feel sorry for that alone. There are always consequences but now live your life the best you can for God’s glory.
Can I remarry? My view changes on this, as so does many others. I now say yes it is possible to remarry. But understand if you are abandoning someone for another, that is clearly unbiblical and will not find the blessing of God. The latitude comes for me is if you were the abandoned one, or maybe it was before salvation, or other reasons that may make it permissible. Yes I understand it indicates you should not marry but it is also clear you should not divorce, God is in the sin forgiving business. We should not lose sight of that!
The rest of the chapter shows us from the little child on Jesus’ lap to the rich young ruler who thought through his self-righteousness he could obtain heaven, that we all need the grace of God. To conclude the chapter we should be willing to sacrifice all for the glory of God and His kingdom. We will be rewarded if we are willing to forsake all. Are you willing to stand for God’s glory in your bad marriage, to allow God to make it one for His honor? We’re not called to be happy, but totally His. Sorry American culture.
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